Great sex consists entirely of motions,
Kosher Sex consists of motions that elicit lasting emotions. Great sex is an undertaking of two separate bodies,
Kosher Sex is two halves of the same whole.
Twenty-five years ago, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach's celebrated international bestseller
Kosher Sex changed how we view and approach sex, marriage, erotic attraction, and personal relationships by drawing on traditional Jewish wisdom. Based on his extensive experience counseling individuals and couples, the author breaks down sexual taboos and openly yet respectfully discusses the meanings, emotions, and hidden power of sex.
With his unique anecdotal style, Rabbi Boteach illustrates each and every point, using real couples who have discovered the joys of "kosher sex"--sex that blends passion and lovers--and suggests revolutionary ways of synthesizing the best that each has to offer. When half of all marriages fail and one third are sexless and platonic,
Kosher Sex has an astonishing and electrifying impact.
Product Details
ISBN-13: 9781510779891
Media Type: Hardcover
Publisher: Skyhorse
Publication Date: 09-26-2023
Pages: 336
Product Dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.20(d)
About the Author
SHMULEY BOTEACH has been labeled "a cultural phenomenon" by Newsweek and "the most famous rabbi in America" by the Washington Post, one of the world's fifty most influential Jews by the Jerusalem Post, and London Times Preacher of the Year. His thirty-two books (translated into twenty language), syndicated columns, TLC TV show, and Oprah and Friends radio show have had a global impact. Formerly rabbi at the University of Oxford, Rabbi Shmuley runs The World Values Network, promoting universal values in American culture and media. Follow him at www.shmuley.com and on Twitter @RabbiShmuley.
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Your Spouse: A Friend or a Lover?
Platonic friendship--the interval between the introduction and the first kiss.
--Sophie Irene Loeb
I have always detested the belief that sex is the chief bond between man and woman. Friendship is far more human.
--Agnes Smedley
Love is a matter of chemistry. Sex is physics.
--Anonymous
Husbands are chiefly good lovers when they are betraying their wives.
--Marilyn Monroe
<Table of Contents
Table of Contents
| Acknowledgments | xi |
| Foreword: Kosher Sex: The Soul of Marriage | 1 |
Part 1 | The Sex File | |
1 | Lust and Commitment | 17 |
2 | Sex and Doing What's Expected | 25 |
3 | The Real Power of Sex | 31 |
4 | The Myth of Compatibility | 39 |
5 | Sex and Traditional Thought | 45 |
6 | Love, Lust, and Intimacy | 51 |
Part 2 | Sexual Techniques: The Mechanics of Sex | |
1 | Can Men and Women Really Enjoy Sex Together? | 59 |
2 | Is There a Kosher Kama Sutra? | 67 |
3 | Your Spouse: A Friend or a Lover? | 73 |
4 | Is Oral Sex Wrong? | 79 |
5 | Married People and Masturbation | 85 |
6 | Should Sex Be Used to Mend Bridges? | 91 |
7 | Sex, When to Refuse It | 99 |
8 | Does Size Matter? | 105 |
9 | What About Pornography? | 113 |
10 | Lights, On or Off | 121 |
11 | Is Prostitution a Safe Option? | 127 |
12 | Sadomasochism | 133 |
13 | Orthodox Sex, a Hole in a Sheet? | 139 |
Part 3 | Sex for Single People | |
1 | Do Single People Have More Fun? | 145 |
2 | Is Marriage a Mere Symbol? | 151 |
3 | Career or Marriage? | 159 |
4 | Holding Out for the Best | 165 |
5 | Choosing a Spouse | 173 |
6 | What If You Drive Each Other Crazy? | 181 |
7 | Why Should We Marry at All? | 189 |
8 | Marriage, a Relationship Based on Fragility | 195 |
9 | Why Parental Love Ceases to Be Sufficient | 201 |
Part 4 | Marriage and Divorce | |
1 | Is Divorce Ever a Good Thing? | 209 |
2 | Your Spouse's Impossible Flaws | 215 |
3 | Adultery, Such Fun? | 219 |
4 | Becoming Desirable Again | 227 |
5 | Kosher Desires | 231 |
6 | Children, Yes or No? | 237 |
7 | Do the Children Come First? | 241 |
Part 5 | Kosher Sex: A Recipe | |
1 | Jealousy | 247 |
2 | Mystery | 253 |
3 | Romance | 257 |
4 | Depth | 261 |
5 | Friends and Family | 267 |
| The Final Word | |
| Climbing the Mountain | 275 |
| Checklist for Marriage | 279 |
| Kosher Sex in a Nutshell | 282 |
| References | 285 |