Table of Contents
Contents
Introduction
PART ONE Winning the One You Want
1. General Strategy
2. Acting with Self-Assurance
Be Nice to Yourself
Identify Your Goals
Relax!
Talk with Confidence
Know What You Want in a Prospective Mate
Plan Out Where to Meet Others
3. Taking the Offensive
Be First to Show Interest in the Other
Go for One Date at a Time
Avoid Being Defensive
4. Making Time an Ally
Take Your Time (Go Slowly)
Be Attentive on a Regular Basis
Be Persistent
5. Pacifying Their Fears and Gaining Their Trust
Show You Care But Don’t Say It!
6. Being Irresistibly Likable
Light Up!
Show Those Pearly Whites (Smile)!
Speak with Enthusiasm!
Talk Positively
Discuss the Other Person’s Interests
Use Flattery
Understay Your Welcome
Be Graceful in the Face of Rejection
7. Exhibiting Self-Mastery and Leadership Ability
Plan Out Dates
Demonstrate Independent Thinking
Communicate Your Personal Destiny
Be Unpredictable
Act Indifferently to What They Think of You
Don’t Fish for Feedback
Show Anger When Appropriate
Show Forgiveness After Expressing Anger
8. Cultivating Their Emotional Dependence
Actually Be There (In Person!)
Listen Reflectively
Avoid Being Critical
Express Genuine Admiration and Praise
Supply Sympathy
9. Shaking Their Confidence 97
Use Silence
Drop ’em Cold!
Create Competition
Break a Date!
10. Keeping Them Interested and Hoping
Pop Back Into Their Life
Send Mementos
Awaken Physical Attraction
11. Confronting Diplomatically
Confront Resistant Behavior
12. Demonstrating Commitment 1
Hang in There!
Say “I Love You ”
13. Removing Final Barriers
Strategically Withdraw
Enjoy Being with the One You Want!
PART TWO Winning Back the One You’ve Lost
14. Learning How to Win Back a Lost Love
Decide if It’s Worth It
Know When to “Cut Your Losses ”
15. Showing a Willingness to Change
Assess Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Be Willing to Change and Grow
Create Some Excitement
16. Fixing Communication Skills
Start a Healing Conversation
Keep Interactions Warm
Understand Don’t Just Agree; Listen Don’t Just Hear
Keep on Stroking
Insist Don’t Plead
17. Using Attention Wisely
Demonstrate the Advantage of You
Give Freely of Your Love
Share Quality Time
Share Burdens and Responsibilities
18. Being a Successful Competitor
Face Your Rival
Withhold What They Want
Be Persistent and Consistent
Suggest Conditions for Reconciliation
Give the Other Person a Vacation from You
Consider a Professional Third-Party Viewpoint
Evaluate Who is Winning the Game
Don’t Settle for a Relationship That Requires Force
Proceed with Faith
Final Words
About the Authors