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We Should Get Together is the handbook for anyone who's ready for better friendships, now.

  • Have you recently moved to a new city and are struggling to make friends?
  • Do you find yourself constantly making plans with friends that fall through?
  • Are you more likely to see your friends' social media posts than their faces?

    • You aren't alone. Millions of adults struggle with an uncomfortable and persistent ache: platonic longing, which is the unfulfilled wish for authentic, resilient, close friendships. But it doesn't have to be this way. Making and maintaining friendships during adulthood can be hard--or, with a bit of intention and creativity, joyful.

    Author Kat Vellos, experience designer and founder of Better Than Small Talk, tackles the four most common challenges of adult friendship: constant relocation, full schedules, the demands of partnership and family, and our culture's declining capacity for compassion and intimacy in the age of social media. Combining expert research and personal stories pulled from conversations with hundreds of adults, We Should Get Together is the modern handbook for making and maintaining stronger friendships.

    With this book you will learn to:

  • Make and maintain friendships when you (or your friends) keep moving
  • Have deeper and more meaningful conversations
  • Triumph over awkwardness in social situations
  • Become less dependent on your phone
  • Identify and prioritize quality connections
  • Find time for friendship despite your busy calendar
  • Create closer, more durable friendships

    • Full of relatable stories, practical tips, 60 charming illustrations, 55 suggested activities, a book club discussion guide, and 300+ conversation starters, We Should Get Together is the perfect book for anyone who wants to have dedicated, life-enriching friends, and who wants to be that kind of friend, too.

    ISBN-13: 9781734379716

    Media Type: Paperback

    Publisher: Katherine Vellos

    Publication Date: 01-04-2020

    Pages: 310

    Product Dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.65(d)

    Kat Vellos is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful connections, the loneliness epidemic, community-building, and healthy work environments. She's the author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships which was called "marvelous" by BookLife, a subsidiary of Publishers Weekly, and which Kirkus Reviews compared to the work of Norman Vincent Peale and Cicero. Since its release in January 2020, it's been helping adults around the world heal from disconnection and loneliness. Kat has twenty years' experience creating communities where people find belonging and authentic connection. A veteran facilitator, she founded Better than Small Talk and Bay Area Black Designers which was profiled by Forbes. Both groups have created community for hundreds of people across the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond. She's also a seasoned researcher and UX designer. She's worked for Slack, Pandora, and multiple Silicon Valley startups. She's been a speaker for Design for America, Social Good Tech Week, the Transforming Loneliness Summit, and more. With the publication of her new books, We Should Get Together and Connected from Afar, Kat has turned her UX expertise towards combating the loneliness epidemic, by helping millions of people experience greater wellness and fulfillment through thriving platonic relationships.

    Table of Contents

    Part 1: Why friendship matters and the elements of good ones

    Introduction

    How Friendship Got So Complicated

    Hydroponic Friendship

    The Seeds of Connection

    Part 2: The four main friendship challenges and how to overcome them

    Finding Belonging in a Hypermobile World:

    Be Here Now

    Make It Work

    #MoNewFriends

    Get Comfortable

    Settle In

    Fitting Friendship Into Your Busy Life:

    Get (Un)Busy

    Take Control of Your Time

    Make Room for Spaciousness

    Recontextualize Busy

    Double Down on Showing Up

    Blending Friendship with Partnership and Family:

    Dude, Where’s My Friends?

    The Lonely Parent

    Parent Town

    Keeping Everyone Happy

    Outside Looking In

    Remember to Breathe

    Getting Better at Getting Closer:

    Antisocial Media

    Imaginary Friends

    Ask Better Questions

    So Awkward

    Face the Music

    Ask for Help

    From Friendship to Community

    Part 3: Bold new approaches for cultivating friendship, and next steps

    Next Level: How to Accelerate Any Friendship:

    Zero to Sixty in Two Weeks

    The Friendship Incubator

    Conclusion

    Making It Real

    Appendix

    Book Club and Discussion Guide

    Acknowledgments

    Find Your Feelings

    Better than Small Talk: Conversation Starters

    Notes