Bisexual Men Exist: A Handbook for Bisexual, Pansexual and M-Spec Men

"You're just being greedy."
"Are you sure you're not gay?"
"Pick a side."

Being a bisexual man isn't easy - something Vaneet Mehta knows all too well. After spending more than a decade figuring out his identity, Vaneet's coming out was met with questioning, ridicule and erasure. This experience inspired Vaneet to create the viral #BisexualMenExist campaign, combatting the hate and scepticism m-spec (multi-gender attracted spectrum) men encounter, and helping others who felt similarly alone and trapped.

This powerful book is an extension of that fight. Navigating a range of topics, including coming out, dating, relationships and health, Vaneet shares his own lived experience as well as personal stories from others in the community to help validate and uplift other bisexual men. Discussing the treatment of m-spec men in LGBTQ+ places, breaking down stereotypes and highlighting the importance of representation and education, this empowering book is a rallying call for m-spec men everywhere.

ISBN-13: 9781787757196

Media Type: Paperback

Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers

Publication Date: 01-19-2023

Pages: 256

Product Dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.90(d)

Vaneet Mehta (He/Him) is an Indian bisexual man born and raised in Southall, West London. He is a software engineer, writer and public speaker and the founder of #BisexualMenExist, which went viral in 2020. He has appeared on numerous panels and delivered talks to various companies. He has written for Men's Health, Stonewall, GMFA, Metro UK, OutLife and Unicorn Magazine and his work has been published in The Bi-ble: New Testimonials, The Ampersand Project and The Sex Agenda. Bisexual Men Exist is his first book.

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

Ch 1 Representation and Education 14

Ch 2 Coming Out 41

Ch 3 Dating and Relationships 75

Ch.4 Health 102

Mental Health 104

Sexual Health 119

The Health of M-spec Men 146

Ch 5 Intersectionality 148

M-spec and Trans 151

M-spec and People of Colour (POC) 167

M-spec and A-spec 184

The Importance of Intersectionality 196

Ch 6 Pride 199

Epilogue 222

Acknowledgements 224

References 228

Index 246

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