Table of Contents
Foreword 11
Preface 15
Introduction 17
The Conditions of Love 21
Love Is a Process, Not a Destination 23
Everybody Needs More Love 25
Everybody's Wounded: The Torn Ear Theory of Love 27
Everybody Has Circumstances 30
Your Sweetheart Isn't You 33
Your Sweethearr Isn't Psychic 36
Assumptions Arc Dangerous to Your Love Life 38
Communication Is the Interpersonal Miracle 40
Communication Is a Revelation, Not a Contest 43
Relationships Have Seasons 46
The Practices of Love 49
Nourishing Your Loving Sell 49
Love Yourself 51
Say What You Feel 53
Ask for What You Need 55
Be Emotionally Brave 57
Reveal What Makes You Feel Loved 60
Expose Your Secret Love Scenario 63
Go Easy on Yourself 65
Cherishing Your Beloved 69
Celebrate the Exceptional 71
Praise the Ordinary 73
Do the Extraordinary Ordinary Thing 75
Be a Person of Your Word 77
Criticize Only in Private 79
Do the Unexpected 81
Behave Yourself in Public 83
Shower Each Other with Kisses 86
Speak the Love Words 88
Say Please 90
Give More Gifts 92
Ask If You Can Help 95
Ask the Ridiculous Question 97
Listen for the Meaning Underneath the Words 99
Walk a Mile in Your Sweethearts Shoes 101
Say Thank You 103
Treasuring Your Relationship 107
Put Your Love on a Billboard 109
Commiserate with One Another 111
Negotiate the Mundane 114
Acknowledge the Hardships Your Circumstances Create 116
Keep in Touch 118
Take Intimate Time 121
Rekindle the Romance 123
Watch Your Tongue 126
Depart and Reunite with Loving Gestures 128
Fight the Good Fight 130
Leave the Kitchen Sink in the Kitchen 133
Remember the Early Days of Your Love 135
Be Willing to Make the Generous Gesture 137
Accentuate the Positive 140
Fluff Up the Ego of Your Love 142
Tie Up Your Emotional Loose Ends 144
Apologize, Apologize, Apologize 147
Play 149
Celebrate with Ceremonies 151
Reveal Your Fears 153
Share Your Dreams 155
Be Generous with Your Body 157
Trust One Another 159
Do It Again and Again and Again 161
The Transformations of Love 165
Console One Another 167
Forgive One Another 169
Acknowledge the Power of Language to Create Reality 171
Sanctify Your Relationship 173
Consecrate Your Relationship 175
Hold Each Other in the Light 177
Bow to the Mystery of Love 179
About the Author 183
