Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Part 1 SexAbility: A View from My Side of the Stirrups 7
1 Taboo Topics: Let's Talk: Who's having sex? Who's not? And if not, why not? 9
2 The Science of SexAbility: How normal sexual response can morph into NO sexual response 30
3 An Up-Close View of Your Genitals: Your private parts should be a little less private- at least to yourself 47
4 When Your Vagina Is in a Phunk: What your vaginal pH should he-and why it matters 60
Part 2 SexAbilitators: Essentials to Fix What's Broken 73
5 Slip-Sliding Away: Lubricants and Moisturizers: The right product makes all the difference between sandpaper sex and slippery sex 75
6 Kegels with a Kick: A trip to the gym for your pelvic floor and the ergonomics of sex (who knew?) 92
7 Say Yes to Drugs: Sometimes a prescription doesn't just make sex better, it makes it possible 110
Part 3 SexAbility Saboteurs 121
8 It Hurts!: Turn vaginal agony into vaginal ecstasy 123
9 A Real Pain in the Pelvis: Some sexual pain can be an indicator of a deeper problem 148
10 Lost My Mojo: Want to find your mojo? Here's how 171
11 Nothing's Happening: I'd like to buy a vowel-the key to getting the big O back 199
Part 4 Hormone Havoc 233
12 I Am Woman-Hear Me ROAR: PMS, pregnancy, postpartum, infertility, contraception- strap in, it's going to be a bumpy ride 235
13 Hormone Hell: How to turn back the clock on your vagina when your estrogen tank is on empty 257
14 The Cold Truth About Hot Flashes: Vaginal dryness is not the only issue that sabotages your SexAbility 280
Part 5 You're Special 297
15 Medical Conditions: Add low SexAbility to your list of symptoms 299
16 I'm Glad to Be Alive but …: The impact of cancer on SexAbility 323
Part 6 Other People 349
17 Finding a Clinician Who Will Actually Listen: Let's talk vagina 351
18 Dating Dangers: Have a positive sexual experience without testing positive 367
Part 7 Taking Your New SexAbility to the Next Level 385
19 Vaginal Vanity: Why some opt for an upgrade 387
20 Toys You Don't Want to Share with Your Children: How toys can add pleasure and novelty to your sex life 402
Resources 415
Acknowledgments 435
Index 439