Table of Contents
1 Spanking and Me 1
How this Book Came About 2
My Biases 3
2 Who Spanks? 5
Is Spanking Sex? 7
Is Spanking BDSM? 8
Ways to Use Spanking 10
3 Why Do We Like Spanking? 13
The Physiology of Spanking 13
The Psychology of Spanking 15
Spanking as Transcendence 20
What's In It for Tops? 21
Some Thoughts About Making It "Real" 22
4 Anatomy of a Spankee 25
Marks 29
5 Communication and Mood 35
Straightforward verbal communication 37
"One to Ten" 39
Safewords 40
Role-playing 42
6 Spanking Fantasies 45
"Losing Scenes" 46
"Winning Scenes" 49
7 For Bottoms 53
Pain Processing 53
Taking Care of Your Hide 55
8 Stages of a Scene 59
Warm up 59
Turn-ons 60
Skin-Watching 62
Aftercare 65
9 Implements 69
Aim 70
Hands 74
Paddles 76
Straps 80
Birch Rods 82
Floggers and Other Multi-Tailed Implements 83
Canes, Crops, Switches and the Like 84
10 Positions 87
Weight on the Feet 87
Partially Supported Positions 90
Fully Supported 94
11 Spanking Relationships 97
The Spencer Plan (Cooperative Domestic Discipline) 99
"Head of Household" Domestic Discipline 101
Goal-Oriented Discipline 103
Maintaining Perspective 104
12 Troubleshooting 105
Emotional Crises 105
Physical Injuries 107
Health Concerns 113
13 Tips, Tricks and Fun Things to Try 115
Get Wet 115
Chemical Heat 115
Nettles 117
"Hey, keep it down in there!" 117
Mixing Spanking With Other Sensations 119
Games People Play 119
Plug 'Em Up 120
Masturbation During Spanking 121
Spanking During Intercourse or Strap-on Play 122
The Crying Game 123
Invite a Friend 124
14 Conclusion 127
Appendix A Finding Others 129
Appendix B Cleaning Spanking Implements 136
Appendix C Combining Bondage With Spanking 139
Appendix D Some Special Notes on Caning 142
The Glamor of the Cane 144
The Craft of Caning 147
Symmetry 148
Sting/Thud 149
Pacing 150
Types of Canes 153
Natural Materials 154
Manmade Materials 159
Some Special Caning Techniques 161
Resource Guide 165
Illustrations appear on pages vi, 19, 26, 38, 47, 56, 70, 76, 90 and 149.