Table of Contents
Other Books by Gary Roe
What This Book is All About
Part One: The Emotional Upheaval
1. How Could This Happen?
2. Why Does This Hurt So Much?
3. Why Can't I Stop Crying?
4. I Can't Seem to Cry. What's Wrong with Me?
5. Who Else am I Going to Lose?
Grief Skill: The Habit of Deep Breathing
6. Am I Going to Die? Am I Next?
7. How Do I Deal with Anxiety?
Grief Skill: A.I.R. Your Emotions
8. What Do I Do with the Anger I Feel?
9. How Do I Deal with All the Guilt I Feel?
10. How Do I Handle Emotional Overwhelm?
Grief Skill: T.W.A.: Talk it out. Write it out. Art it out.
11. Why Don't I Feel Like Myself Anymore?
12. Why is Grief So Confusing?
13. Is It Okay to Feel Numb?
14. Is It Normal to be Depressed After a Death?
15. Am I Going Crazy?
16. How Do I Deal with Grief Attacks?
17. Is It Normal to Feel Vulnerable After a Loss?
18. Is Apathy a Part of Grief?
19. Am I Going to Make It Through This?
20. Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Feel Better?
21. How Do I Stop This Terrible Ache in My Heart?
Part Two: The Mental Challenges
22. Why Can't My Mind Rest?
23. Why Can't I Think Straight?
24. What Happened to My Focus and Concentration?
25. What's Happening to My Memory? Am I Losing My Mind?
26. Are Mental Blank-outs Normal in Grief?
27. How Do I Deal with Traumatic Mental Images?
28. How Do I Handle Lack of Closure?
29. Are Past Losses Complicating My Grief?
30. How Do I Deal with Multiple Losses?
31. How Do I Deal with Self-Harming Thoughts?
Part Three: The Physical Distress
32. Why Am I So Tired All the Time?
33. Why Am I Having All These Strange Physical Symptoms?
34. Why Can't I Sleep Like I Used To?
35. Why Don't I Enjoy Food Anymore?
36. How Did I Become So Accident Prone?
37. How Do I Handle Panic Attacks?
38. Can Grief Make Me Sick?
39. How Do I Take Care of Myself While Grieving?
40. How Do I Keep from Slipping into Old, Unhealthy Habits?
Part Four: The Spiritual Shaking
41. What Do I Do with All These Questions?
42. Where is God in All This?
43. How Do I Handle Being Angry with God?
44. Why? Why? Why?
45. What Do I Do with All My Doubts?
46. Can Loss Produce Spiritual Fatigue?
47. Is Spiritual Numbness a Part of Grief?
48. How Can I Find Hope?
49. Why Am I Here?
Part Five: The Relational Shifts
50. Where Did Everyone Go?
51. Why Are People Treating Me This Way?
52. How Do I Forgive Those Who Have Hurt Me?
53. How Do I Respond to Others' Hurtful Comments?
54. Why Doesn't Anyone Talk About Them?
55. How Do I Find People Who Are Supportive and Helpful?
56. How Do I Work Well While Grieving?
57. What Do I Do If Grief Is Affecting My Marriage?
58. How Do I Parent Well While Grieving?
59. How Do I Deal with the Terrible Loneliness I Feel?
60. Do Support Groups Really Help?
61. Would Counseling Help Me?
62. How Do I Deal with Unsupportive Family?
Part Six: The Future Changes
63. Will This Ever Get Any Better?
64. Who Am I Now?
65. How and When Should I Deal with My Loved One's Possessions?
66. How Do I Make Good Decisions While Grieving?
67. How Do I Think About the Future Now?
68. How Do I Handle Special Days?
69. How Can I Use My Grief for Good?
70. How Do I Move Forward Without Leaving My Loved One Behind?
71. How Can I Help Others Who Are Grieving?
Concluding Thoughts
Additional Grief Resources
About the Author
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